In the midst of all of the preparations that are taking
place and the rushing around that people will do as well as the normal daily
events and work it is sometimes difficult to realize that not everyone is into
the festivities and that the song Blue
Christmas rings closer to the truth than Jingle Bell Rock. What is it
about the Christmas season in particular that increases the blues and
depression for countless numbers of people?
Some will say that the shorter days and longer nights, colder weather
have an impact. Others feel the loss of
loved ones keenly. Many are intensely
lonely and that somehow magnifies at Christmas when friends are eagerly looking
forward to going home for the season or conversely looking forward to family
members coming to spend it with them. It
is a tough season filled with very mixed emotions.
We know that it is impossible to get far in life without
being hurt and feeling pain. The wounds that life gives
us can run deep. In order to safeguard
and protect ourselves we build walls and resistance to love, become less
trusting and isolate ourselves. Then we
wonder why we feel sad? Add to that a season of merriment, celebration and
gatherings of friends and countless parties and the loneliness and sadness that
is felt is magnified –after all everyone else is so happy! That in turn increases the loneliness that we
might feel. We are reminded though by
our very inclusion in events that it is through friends, faith we can start to
feel better and whole once more and with their help we learn to open ourselves up
again. We learn to become compassionate
and willing to let people be a part of our lives once more. We heal!
It does not mean that we have forgotten what has wounded and saddened us
it simply means that we are moving forward, making new memories to build on the
old ones. In means that new joy can be
found in the midst of the sadness that has become a part of our very essence.
The “spirit of this season” brings with it mixed emotions
for many people. I would encourage each
and every one of us not to not gloss over the pain, loss or loneliness as it is
a part of us and makes us uniquely who we are. However, I would encourage each of us
to be willing to be open to the new experiences, new memories that can be built
and grown and to be open to those who invite us to be a part of and share in the
festivities so that a new spirit can begin to grow in us.
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